A New Day - A New Era - A NEW LIFE!
The Motherhood Money and Men Women’s conference in Indianapolis this past weekend was awesome! It was a time for motivation, rejuvenation, healing, and feeling!!! Check out my facebook fan page for photos and recaps of a magnificent sisterhood!
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When the expressions “loving yourself” or “self-love” are heard, there may be confusion about what is meant. This is because when we hear the word “love”, we think in terms of what we are familiar with, dependent love. If we try to love ourselves, we may take an approach similar to that used in dependent love, using ourselves as the object of our love. We may try to escape into ourselves, as we escaped into others. We may become self-absorbed and self-indulgent, putting our own needs first. The motive is still to escape. We reject unhappiness and, in so doing, reject ourselves.
Self-love has nothing to do with using yourself as the object of your love. Self-love is defined as inner peace, a connection with your spiritual higher power. It is not the act of “loving” an object because it may please you tremendously, whether that object is someone or something else or yourself. Self-love is a condition of awareness, a way of perceiving, an attitude, which results in an integrated perception of the world, and in turn, a perception of your connection with God.
Demonstrating self-love begins with self-acceptance. They are essentially the same. You begin loving yourself when you stop rejecting yourself, especially on the feeling level. When you practice self-acceptance of your feelings as they are now, you will experience real changes in consciousness. You no longer try to juggle people or possessions in the external world in order to find fulfillment. You find fulfillment from within, simply by accepting, without acting out, your feelings as they are right now.
Do not underestimate the importance of self-acceptance. It can end the emotional pain that you feel or lead to the spiritual experience you want. Starting with the mundane, you will reach the highest of inner realization. In welcoming all your feelings, you become whole; life becomes holistic. You experience oneness. You no longer compulsively search for oneness in the external world, whether with another person or with an achievement. You accept and love yourself.
Most of us as women are assaulted with negative messages of our outer selves and our bodies on a regular basis by magazines and newspapers, advertisements, “well meaning” family members, peers, and even friends. We’re shown computer-manipulated images of the “perfect” body—a body that is not natural for the vast majority of us, and can only be obtained through self-abuse and starvation.
We sometimes forget that women come in lots of different shapes and sizes, and this diversity is just not reflected in the media. It’s hard to feel good about ourselves when we don’t see ourselves reflected back. How we feel about our bodies affects how we feel about ourselves. So it’s important that we embrace our bodies, and find ways to love our bodies—and ourselves.
The quality of love is truly universal – as it literally transcends peoples, nations and religions. Love is truly the universal language of this world and people from all different walks of life recognize it for what it truly is and understand the power that is in it. Surrounding yourself with love brings positive energy into your life because loving yourself is loving God!
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We all have emotional baggage. It’s life. It’s inevitable. We have no control of how others think, behave, and treat us. BUT!…. We do have control over our reaction to it. Acknowledge the hurt, pain, disappointment, and negative feelings, and move on. When we allow ourselves to dwell in an unhealthy place of emotional turmoil, that’s when the real trouble begins. Our lives will come to a screeching halt.
If we sustain a physical injury, after a period of time, the bruises heal, and we get on with life. We must pull from our inner strength to do the same with our emotional scars. As time passes, the emotional scars will also heal (just as our physical scars heal) if we allow the healing process to occur. Harboring resentment, anger, bitterness, envy, lonliness, and self-pity will keep the negative emotions alive.
Forgiveness is crucial for our healing – it is for us, not the other party involved. When we learn to forgive, it strengthens us so that we can focus our positive energy on other rewarding activities and tasks. When we allow negative emotions to overtake us, it stifles our growth, anchors us to the shackles of the past, and diminishes our inner glow.
If you drive your car for months and years with no routine maintenance, cleansing and replacing the dirty oil, your car would not function well. The same is true of our emotions. We must periodically purge the old toxic garbage and replace those thoughts with new healthy affirmations, relaxation, visualization, and other methods of renewal.
When we choose to live our life by design, our world (as we know it) changes. My radio show has helped hundreds of thousands of people to take control and design their lives instead of being led down a path that is not ours to go down.
We are born with unique talents and abilities that only we possess – personal identity code. When we discover our unique gifts, we can align our lives around it. Otherwise, we will be influenced by someone in our life (parents, friends, spouse) to convince us to go toward a path or direction that doesn’t align with who we are. Ask yourself this important question: who are you? And what do you have to offer the world? That’s where you begin.
Are you still angry at your ex? Or a family member? Or a friend? If so, why? It does no good to hold onto grudges and anger toward someone else. That individual has probably moved on with their life and forgotten about what may have caused YOUR anger. It is your responsibility to let it out, and then release it. When you hold on, it only damages YOU, not the other person. It anchors you, it holds you back.
Acknowledge the hurt and anger, do whatever you need to do to release it. A few examples may be to write a letter to the person expressing your feelings. You don’t have to mail the letter – just write it. Getting your words out and feelings onto paper has a very therapeutic effect on the emotions. Once you have acknowledged and expressed your anger, then you can move on with your life.
When we allow anger and resentment to remain in our sub-conscious and spirit, it causes many other things in our lives to fall apart. What we carry inside is what we attract more of into our lives. When you release the anger, it allows you to replace those feelings with peace, and whatever you want in your life will be likely to happen.
TRY IT!
It starts somewhere, right? You get laid off, or you’re in the midst of a divorce, or your relationship is falling apart, or you’re lonely and if you could just find that “special someone”, or the doctor says you need to lose 40 lbs or else…….or else what? You’ll worry yourself to death?
There are many life scenarios that could control our emotions if we allow it. But YOU are in control of your emotions – not life situation. Our thoughts and how we process our thoughts are extremely powerful. I know you’ve heard it said many times – you are what you think. And you may not want to hear it again. But what you haven’t heard is that it’s easier than you think to implement new thought patterns into your daily routine.
Start small. When you first wake up in the morning, make a new routine to look in the mirror and say “I love you”. Yes, say it to yourself. Do it everyday for 2 weeks. After that, then make it a longer statement. Instead of simply “I love you”, say “I love you, you are beautiful, and I am happy today.” Believe it or not, after 2 months, your old stored negative thoughts will gradually start to be replaced with these new affirmations. As you see progress, then you’ll be able to move to PART II.
